Life changes for the children
After all divorces and separations, life changes for the children. To understand the reason why kids are forced to conform to one parent against the other, a grown person must imagine themselves as a four year-old, a five year-old or a six year-old child. Upon doing so, this participant should realize that they have this young mind now, these little ears and they now see with or look through these tiny eyes at a parent much bigger than them. This tot desires for him or her to love them like a dad or mom should. Little ones, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, will learn what they must do or what they need to say in order to gain the love and approval they so rightly deserve from their parent. What all kids today want the most is to have that feeling of belonging; foremost to their parent or parents. When bruises aren’t visible on the outside, that doesn’t mean abuse isn’t there. It’s the verbal torture hidden in the heart that isn’t seen and many do not regard as abuse. A child who suffers from those cruel memories may not recover or feel like they belong. (excerpt from Poppa Too)